DO YOU REALLY NEED HELP?

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So, about a month ago, I was having a conversation with someone and the person mentioned how that people (Church people especially) only think to walk up to you and condemn you or put up a holier than thou appearance when they hear some shitty stuff about you, whereas they never thought to ask how things were going with you prior to when things blew up. Well, I already knew where they were coming from so I just had to wait for them to land before I condemn the person properly (as a Church people that I am)

Truth is, every now and then when our actions finally explode in our faces, we are very quick to want to share the guilt with everyone around us by accusing them of not saying or doing something when it wasn’t as bad. So we begin asking funny questions like; what do you care? Where were you when A and B was happening?

Back to my story; so when the person was done making a good case for the devil, I just simply asked; “when you catch a fever, do you lie in bed expecting a miracle (without even praying) or you get a medication or probably call at the doctor’s office?” I then relaxed, tilted my head and watched them become all defensive. Oshey! Condemnation Expert.

And we all are like that; we claim nobody was willing to help when in fact we never shared our problem with them in the first place. When you started having feelings for that sister, who did you confide in? When you went off to see Brother anonymous that evening, who did you go with? When you both eventually kissed, did you run to your Pastor to report yourself? (Okay He is not God and I totally do not understand with you; unfortunately) and just so you know that we know; a lot of things do not happen accidentally, it takes a lot of planning and commensurate effort to commit sin (sexual sin especially).

Sometime ago, I was struggling with a particular addiction, I knew I needed help and I knew I could get that help if I took the initiative to speak to a particular senior friend about it but no! And guess what I did, day after day, I kept praying that God would reveal it to the person and ask them to come talk to me about it. (Omo! That’s a complete waste of word of knowledge... yes, that’s what I said; a waste –because mine was a perfect case of knowing what is right and failing at it) gracefully, my secret sin was uncovered and I got delivered.

I’ve learnt to overcome sin not just by praying but also by opening up to my friend and doing it early enough. So when a lady is in my DM and the conversation has persisted for more than two days, I quickly alert my friend about who is in my DM and the extent of our conversation. Unfortunately, a lot of person do not have that one person they can bare their hearts to... yes I already knew you’ll say you have the Holy Ghost but sometimes, you need a little slapping on the shoulder to reset your head and the Holy Ghost is too gentle. (Now, I didn’t mean that literally)

It is very possible to be in an innumerable company of sound spiritual people and never get our lives straight if we do not bring ourselves to open up about our darkest sides (no be every time them go d use word of knowledge on top your head).

One of my great people will always say it is difficult to help someone who doesn’t know they need help but I will say absolutely nothing can be done for the one who knows they need help but won’t go for it.

So before you begin to guilt chase people and accuse them, be sure that you have clearly asked for their help.

If you really need help, open up and ask for it. Don’t wait for prophet suddenly to call your name.

PS: Don’t ask for financial help please, let the poor breathe.

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